i feel this – Thoughtfulfangirling

obovoid:

i don’t want to achieve equality by sinking to men’s level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in others’ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to others’ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why can’t the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldn’t have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!

brutereason:

I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.

So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.

factualfeminist:

factualfeminist:

I’ve made a post like this before but fuck it.

I am so sick and goddamned tired of being a feminist.

It feels like the barrage of the patriarchy on the rights of anyone that’s not a white man is a ceaseless never ending siege.

I just want it to be over. For us all to get along. For everyone to be safe and for no one to face discrimination. (Unless you’re a brony. You all deserve discrimination. Go outside and feel the sun. Weirdos.)

I’m only 23 and don’t see this happening in my life time. I don’t want my children to inherit this battle but my heart of hearts knows they will.

I am so privileged and so lucky in this world to be a middle class white woman with a college degree and a job living in the USA. I see the violence and hatred women of color face simply for being that color and it sickens me.

I see poor women unable to feed their children because the patriarchy doesn’t see the need to pay them a living wage but demonizes them for needing food stamps.

I am so tired of seeing the violence and ignorance the lgbtqa people face.
Maybe I’m internalizing things too much. But it really doesn’t matter. Nothing I can do or say will change the status quo. But we all can if we work together.

And people are banding together.

And that’s what gives me hope.

Bringing this back, but with some changes.

I’m 25 now and we are running the risk of having a president that will erase all the positive changes we’ve made in the last 60 years and bring us back to the Dark Ages of American Human Rights.

Ferguson happened. Racial issues are continued to be demonized by the American media and are denied by white people as a whole.

I feel like racial inequality should be the first priority of the modern feminist movement, but we have Lena Dunham and Taylor Swift spouting white feminist garbage and it’s swallowed up by the masses. But Beyonce and Nicki Minaj are ignored for their feminism. Or their ‘promiscuity’ is pointed out and it is dismissed.

We still have so far to go. And I am tired.