The other day I was washing my hands and another woman came out the stall a couple seconds after I did. She wasn’t cis, and a different woman waiting for someone to finish up looked angry and opened her mouth to say something. Before she could, I smiled real friendly a this woman who’s just trynna wash her hands and told her I loved her skirt, and we started talking clothes.
The waiting woman was still clearly pissed but she didn’t say anything because she knew I wouldn’t have her back. That’s all it took to keep some poor lady just trynna scrub up from getting harassed.
Sometimes doing the right thing is really hard and kinda scary. Other times all it takes is making it clear that you won’t support someone’s nastiness. It’s a little enough thing to do your part.
Tag: !!!
If didn’t see staff post, basically you can now officially blacklist tags within the app. Since many are mobile users here’s how to find the filter. Above is showing that it indeed works. (tagging in anti tag only for information purpose that’s it) Staff didn’t provide visual so here’s one
I didn’t realise you can now blacklist on mobile so there’s now literally no excuse now. If there’s something people don’t want to see specifically they should utilise this system. People can’t use the excuse now that they use mobile
Ohmigod… I can blacklist homestuck on mobile? Awwwwesome!
I’ve never seen it put so succinctly.
This.
[image description: screenshot of a tweet by Twitter user @liberienne that reads, “Shitty people are hoping you’ll be ‘the bigger person’ so there’s no consequences for their actions.”]
Who cares about them ? Be the bigger person for yourself because at the end of the day, what matters is how YOU react, conduct yourself. Who cares about what they want or need.
I care about their future victims. I want to react in a way that protects future victims. Shitty people will continue hurting the people around them until someone stops spouting useless platitudes like “be the bigger person” or “learn to let go” or “it gets better” and actually does something to end the cycle of shit.
When we forgive someone for something they’re still doing to other people, that’s still hurting other people, we’re enabling them. When people don’t face consequences for being shitty, we’ve incentivized shittyness, and the amount of shit we have to deal with in society rises.
We as a culture need to stop equating enablement with forgiveness.
me @ my body: perhaps… since it’s summer… you could sleep without the blanket?
my body: interesting thought! interesting thought. but no
no other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. love is all about choices. no one is going to be perfect for you, and i think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was “made for you” because it isn’t true. no one is made for you, besides you. other people belong to themselves. if you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice
and there isn’t just “one other person” out there waiting for you. you can love multiple people over your lifetime. you can love multiple people at once. you can have more than one soulmate, or none. you can be your own soulmate.
my point is…you aren’t missing your “other half.” you are a whole person by yourself, and if you love someone, you need to understand that they are a whole person too, not your “other half.”
Thoughtfulfangirling 