There is categorically no trend on Twitter that will ever ever ever beat this ‘girls do it better’ thing we’ve got going because honestly it’s just meaning we’re getting photos of beautiful girls recreating this look and my lesbian ass is living for it
Seeing as you guys are loving this as much as I am, let me bless your eyes with some more beautiful girls creating this iconic look. Creds of course to all of these wonderful ladies
Had my first unexpected pregnancy dream in well over a year. Kind of strange. And definitely uncomfortable. On top of the general ‘oh god I don’t know how to raise kids I don’t have space or money for them I’m going to screw this up,’ I was having complications. Water broke two weeks before they were ready to take the baby out and Doctor was like ‘I’ll be back in four hours to deal with this, just chill in the emergency room’????
It was… not fun.
Oh! And also, this was the doctor who abandoned me in the emergency room:
Also @ecouter-bien, I’m sure you’re right and it’s just a rare glitch. My brain has been a little off the rails this week 😓
This flower is called the Clitoria and is my new favorite plant
Had my first unexpected pregnancy dream in well over a year. Kind of strange. And definitely uncomfortable. On top of the general ‘oh god I don’t know how to raise kids I don’t have space or money for them I’m going to screw this up,’ I was having complications. Water broke two weeks before they were ready to take the baby out and Doctor was like ‘I’ll be back in four hours to deal with this, just chill in the emergency room’????
It fucks me up that “It is not my responsibility to fix others” has become some sort of self-care mantra because it demonstrates really blatantly how, like, alienation is core to the mainstream narrative of self-care/self-healing.
Like, “it’s not my responsibility to fix others”, bitch, yes it is, the problem is that it is ALL of our responsibility, but so many people have this shit knocking around in their head that they neglect it and so only those with either an immense commitment to others or those who have been groomed into self-sacrificial behavior engage in it and they end up burned out and used because everyone else is putting “not my responsibility to fix others” next to shit like “drink more water.”
And people will be like, “This is manipulative, no one should feel obligated to help other people with their problems” but like…
And you are free to think that way, I can’t stop you, but we need to call it what it is: selfish.
From the same mouths come the claim that the deeply traumatized and the psychotic need to be hyper-vigilant in making sure that all of their coping mechanisms are coherent, respectable, and ideally quiet, and at all times never made other people’s business (even if those people actively try to pry into your life to make sure your coping is following these guidelines), but at the same time, we can’t call selfishness what it is just because it’s dressed in the trappings of this paradigm of neurotic recovery and self-care.
Like, you can take a step back, you can establish boundaries and say “right now I need time and space to work on my own shit”, but the ritualistic “cutting out” of “toxic” people is selfish, plain and simple. Toxicity used to mean people who were actively engaged in harming you, who were actively looking to abuse and manipulate you, but now it’s just “anyone that makes me feel bad”, and like, who is really the toxic one in that scenario, if we really wanna cling to that language?
“I never asked for that responsibility”, bitch, me neither, but we are all struggling on this Earth, and you can be selfish, you are allowed to be selfish, you are allowed to be callous, you allowed to close your heart to the plight of others, but if you do, why should you be spared the vitriol that seems only reserved for those in the greatest need of help? “These people are toxic, they deserve to be abandoned”, you too bitch, you too.
See, I was raised to respond to a person who has fallen down by getting my knees in the dirt and helping them back up again, and yes it is hard, but what makes it hard isn’t the person in need, it’s the hundreds of people walking by, unwilling to lend a hand and share that burden because they’re lost in their own “self-care”.
It’s bullshit, and if we keep letting that kind of idea take root in our heads, eventually it’ll get to the point where no one’s helping anybody (unless they’re getting something out of them) and that’s gonna be a lonely fucking world to suffer and die in and nobody’s gonna be able to escape it.
Thoughtfulfangirling 