all those ‘say no to drugs’ assemblies in school where WACK i never once had the pot head kids push the Devils Lettuce on me. they’d be like ‘hey u wanna smoke some of this here Blunt of Marajoouana?’ and i’d be like ‘no thanks i dont smoke’ and they’d be like ‘ok cool’ and never bother me about it again
drinkers? NO CHILL AT ALL. even into adulthood people act like i’ve slain their child when i say i am completely sober. like every single time i’ve said no to drinking some person is like ‘what about jello shots there’s barely any in it’ or they’ll leave me a solo cup of wine ‘in case you change your mind’ and when by the end of the night i haven’t had it they’re all ‘you didn’t want any?’ LIKE? YAH I SAID I DIDNT?
anti drug psa’s are fine but they gotta talk about drinking too bc never once did anyone i know who did drugs push me to do it too but everyone i tell i am sober tries to find a way to get me to drink like i said ‘i am sober but change my mind’ or smth
what she says: “Oh I don’t mind; we can eat anywhere. I’m not picky.”
what she means: “For my entire life, I’ve been called bossy/picky/selfish/arrogant/bitchy for voicing my own opinions and making my views known, so now when someone I care about asks me about what I want, my immediate gut reaction is to defer to the other person’s preference. it’s less of a hassle to capitulate to someone else’s desires than to risk having someone verbally berate me for being truthful about what I want.”
my friend said that whenever she has a bad feeling about her body/appearance, she asks herself “who profits off of this emotion?” and i really love how simple and incisive that is
a butch i’m friends with has told me what it was like for her in her youth and its so fucked! she went to college in the mid 70s, keep in mind too that it was a PUBLIC state college not even a religious one, and it was literally against the rules for women to not wear dresses. workplaces were universally the same (unless of course you passed). last time i was with her and another old butch they talked about how it was normal in lesbian culture to have half your friends immediately go to the bathroom and change when they went out to bars after work or school, like unquestioned thats just what all the butches and dykes did. you’d see em for a sec in day-drag and they’d come back out as themselves, unquestioned. anyways, in the 1990s my friend was working as a lawyer in the southwest and she literally could not enter the courtroom in pants or else the judge would tell her to leave and it would hurt her case too. like, i was alive then? it was not a long time ago? its fucking nuts that people think that women being able to dress practically is just like women getting away with shit when they fought tooth and nail and organized to be able to do it. and yknow what, today in 2018, women can wear jeans without question, but they sure as fuck can’t look like too ~manly~ and be left alone, i can attest to that, so uh, yeah, women keep breaking the rules for years and getting beat up and excluded and marginalized and humiliated and shamed until its normalized and then the second it is everyone with the memory of a goldfish is like “wow women can wear pants, privilege!”
the athiesm of women/people of color/lgbt people is absolutely different than the athiesm of cishet white men and i feel like people forget that a lot
how?
Don’t have spoons for long explanation – also this is only speaking for christianity – but religion has been a force of oppression for women, people of color, and lgbt+ people and the rejection of the religion is often coupled with the rejection of how religion treats them.
I’ll also say that abuse survivors are included in this because it is a reaction to and an attempt to reconcile how (christian) god would allow abuse to happen.
For straight white men atheism is usually rooted in intellectual and rational superiority complexes. It’s a “i am more rational and intelligent than you, how can you believe in something so obviously fake” thing as opposed to a reaction to a societal institution that upholds their oppression and abuse.
Women, PoC, Queer people, immigrants, trauma survivors, etc: How can I believe in something that teaches you to be cruel? How can I trust the books that tell me of peace and love, when you use your faith to hurt me? How can a loving god allow [insert injustice of the day]?
White Men: I, as an Intellectual, eschew silly superstitions that say I might, someday, after my death, face one (1) single consequence.
These are the same men who don’t understand why people with vastly different political beliefs might have difficulty getting along. Everything is a hypothetical exercise to them. They see religion as an isolated set of hypothetical ideas that have no bearing on reality.
Religious beliefs inform how religious people treat others, and what values they prioritize not just personally, but also on the familial, communal, and societal level. Religion informs how everyone in a religious community lives together with each other. To someone who has been victimized by religion, rejecting religion is not about rejecting a hypothetical idea – it’s about rejecting a system of oppression.
okay y’all let’s get serious for a second: if you’re a young artist/author, it can be really flattering for ppl to send u reqs, and if u have reqs open/reblogged a meme thats fine that they do that, but if anyone asks you for smtg for free unsolicited, dont do it! even if its something you wouldve done for free if they hadnt asked. u need to turn them down because
they probably do this to other ppl, so u really shouldnt be flattered, unfortunately–if they respected you, theyd pay u
you’re undercutting the market for those who do take commissions, which hurts ppl who do this for a living and need money
when u open commissions, they have a habit of being demanding ‘oh u used to do it for free’ and giving them free things does not lead to paid gigs in the future. it doesnt!
if they say its ‘for exposure,’ well, u can also get exposure for things u do for money. u can! and the exposure u get from ppl asking for free stuff… is exposure to other ppl who ask for free stuff, usually, so it wont lead to paid work
sometimes they say ‘if u do this for free ill pay u for other things in the future’ and thats a big fat lie. they wont. theyll take ur free stuff then move on to someone else
so if someone asks u for free work: decline, and tell ur friends to, too!
and if youre not an artist/author: dont ask ppl to make u things for free. offer to pay them. yes, even your friends. dont take a rejection to work for free then go ask someone else either, bc thats just wildly disrespectful. offer to pay ppl for their labor! if u cant afford it, that sucks, but artists cant afford to work for free, either. and no ‘i comm’d other ppl in the past’ doesnt make ur decision to ask someone else for smtg for free okay. it actually makes it more egregious
and before anyone says “but my friend offered to make me ____ for free” yes, then u arent asking, ur accepting their offer, and thats fine
people are really saying that the guys from q eye are bad representation
those are….real people…….
“they’re all stereotypes”
they’re people living their lives? shut up
some people on here don’t know how to fuckin read
i don’t give a fuck about this show
i’ve watched like 4 episodes and most of those were with my friend’s mom (i watched 1 episode on my own and it was specifically the episode of the trans man)
this isn’t about defending the show or saying that anyone in it can never do wrong or whatever you wanna twist this post to mean
it’s saying to stop calling real living people “stereotypes” because doing so shows you don’t know what a fucking stereotype is
when you call actual, living gay and bi men “bad representation” for being their authentic selves because they’re too flamboyant or feminine for your liking, you’re just being fucking homophobic
Someone: “I want a cat/rabbit/other animal that will be super openly affectionate, go for walks, play fetch, not mind being handled rough, never be shy, and also I don’t want it to claw me or the furniture(so I’ll probably get it declawed) and I don’t want to ever clean a litter box or cage.”
Me: “Hey there’s this great new type of animal you might be interested in:”
Someone: “I want a dog but I don’t ever want to take it for walks or exercise it very much or let it outside and I want it to be fine with being left alone for longer periods of time and also never bark.”
Me:
Someone: “I want a cat or dog but I want to only feed it a vegan diet.”
Me:
Someone: “I want to have a pet but I basically never want to interact with it.”
Me:
Someone: “I want to get my kid a cute pet for Easter/Christmas!”
Me:
Get a pet that fits your needs. Don’t get a pet then try to force it to fit your lifestyle. Just because you saw a person walking a rabbit once doesn’t mean you can expect a rabbit to just be a dog. Just get a dog!
people are really praising sarah ferguson for her interview with steve bannon???? she really grilled him???? i watched that interview and all i was left with was fear and horror, because he’s a really slick media operator and didn’t once seem flustered and why the hell are you giving a slick right wing fascist 45 minutes on prime time tv, therefore legitimising his views????
Well, I guess the circle-jerking from fellow journalists makes more sense now, it’s a theoretical exercise for most of them:
@mswyrr Right??? I agree, but it’s not even really an issue of freedom of speech, people have said they hate him and will boycott the festival. They’re perfectly entitled to do that and to tell the festival why they’re doing that. They’re not obligated to buy tickets and going listen to this human cancer. Meanwhile, just this week Chelsea Manning was denied entry to Australia for a speaking event because of her “criminal history” (to say nothing of David Petraeus who they were totally fine with letting in) and I didn’t see any of these folks up in arms about freedom of speech, etc.
@mswyrr yep, but try telling some in the media that 🙄
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