For us to showcase this character who is a core member of the ensemble, who’s not going anywhere, who is happy, who has friends, a chosen family that she loves, and who is successful in her life, is something I never saw growing up on television. I never thought a happy ending could be for me. And now I am playing someone who is out, who is bi, and who is going to succeed. There’s a beautiful line that Captain Holt, played by Andre Braugher, says in the show. He says, “Every time someone says who they are, it makes the world a better, more interesting place.”
Sexual orientation is defined as sexual attraction to a certain GENDER or SEX. You can not trade being heterosexual or homosexual for being a pedophile, because “child” is neither a GENDER nor SEX. The argument is tired. Pedophilia CAN’T be a sexual orientation by definition.
No tea, no shade, just FACTS!! 👏🏾
Don’t nobody think pedophiles should be part of the lgbtq umbrella.
Some anti-gay people are trying to say the lgbtq community supports it
in other to make more people hate lgbtq people.
Sorry not sorry I FUCKIN HATE PEDOPHILES 👎🏽 I don’t mind losing followers behind this post either because THE SHIT IS SICK AF
Saying “Well, the Q is for Questioning!” is not enough to make the community a safe place for questioning people.
It’s great to include them, but it doesn’t mean a lot if in the meantime you constantly joke about people having an oppression fetish, trying to opt-out of their privilege out of guilt, or being silly cishets desperatly wanting to be “kweer” to be cool.
This! So much this!
I always maintain that exclusionary rhetoric of any kind harms many groups beyond just the one supposed target, but in particular this is true for questioning people. Already, there is a lot of self-doubt surrounding yourself when you’re questioning, and having people continually claiming that there’s this huge issue of people pretending to have LGBTQ+ identities are fakers, oppression fetishists, or are just following some “new trend” only makes it that much worse. I guarantee that if I had seen this kind of stuff directed at any LGBTQ+ orientation or gender group when I was still in the questioning stage about being bi, back when I was a tween/young teen, it would have taken me much, much longer to come to terms with my orientation – if I ever did.
The safest place for people to question their orientation or gender is within our communities, and we shouldn’t be turning these people away just “because they might turn out to actually be cishets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”. Because if we start doing that, we make information harder for them to access and potentially put them in more danger of coming across extremely harmful information and/or people as they go along.
Exclusionary discourse is inherently anti-questioning and I firmly stand by that statement. You cannot allow people to safely question while gatekeeping suspected “cishets” from this community. These are mutually exclusive aims.
Count the number of exclusionists and exclusionary politics that base their stance on how they accidentally identified trans/bi/ace/nb when they were younger and how that is proof of how evil those sexualities/genders are. Look at how pervasive that mindset is in TERF circles, in Biphobe circles, Truscum circles, and aphobe circles.
“Detransitioned trans man” is a TERF hallmark. Rebelbaze’s main reason for hating asexuals is the fact that they identified as ace when they were younger and it did “irrepairable harm”. That was the main position during bi discourse too. How teen girls just pretend to be bi/trans/nb/ace in order to seem edgy and cute (amazing how much misogyny is steeped in their politics too, i wonder if it has anything to do with the fact that society likes to control women’s sexualities? nah)
It’s just a phase > therefore it’s bad and evil and should be gotten rid of, lest, god forbid, people comfortably and safely ease into their preferred identity.
I never understood what the heck is wrong with phases
like
how is it a bad thing to change your opinion after you’ve learned something
that’s actually a pretty great attitude towards anything
YES THAT EXACTLY.
If it is a phase? Okay, so this person spent some time getting to know your community and considered themselves part of it for a while. They’re going to make a damn good ally if you fucking let them.
@inthroughthesunroof more beautiful babies for you. I may be late to the party tho…
honestly as a lesbian I truly couldn’t care less if straight women lie about being gay in order to stop men from hitting on them. like most lesbians don’t care because it’s such a non issue so if that’s your main tactic to use to avoid unwanted attention, go for it. however let it be known that this comes with a price. calling yourself a lesbian doesn’t make rejecting men easy like it could actually make shit harder and more dangerous. in fact many lesbians don’t tell tenacious men that we’re gay because we don’t wanna run the risk of getting hate crimed. not only that but most often than not if we do say we’re gay men won’t believe us or they won’t care and continue with their antics. so in the end, calling yourself gay is not gonna be the most effective or safest option. just be mindfully of who you call yourself gay around because no joke it could honestly mean your fucking life. and that’s my lesbian two cents.
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