The thing that always gets me is how we still frame the idea of trying to be a good caring person as a huge laborious inconvenientinherent sacrifice instead of deeply comforting and rewarding and beneficial to one’s own self and a fundamental human need. Like joke really is on us, the loneliness of modern life is not mysterious.
The original post posits that the situation described is a facet of adulthood. There’s a kind of flippant reply on this post saying “that’s depression babe” and another saying less flippant, but equally useless comment saying “if you feel like that seek help” and both of these comments, I think, are missing the point.
The original post is partiallly correct, and these commenters are also partially correct.
Depression is an adult problem, that nearly every single adult has to grapple with at some point while living under late stage capitalism.
We live in a culture with virtually no social mobility and a nonexistent middle class, with widespread poverty and exploitation and disappearing social safety nets, where people are routinely coerced into accepting soul-crushing jobs in order to survive.
Depression in the face of these circumstances is not a matter of an individual having a problem. When a massive percentage of a society’s populace is coerced into taking soul crushing work in order to survive, depression becomes a social issue.
Don’t dismiss this as “individuals needing to seek help for their individual mental illnesses” – acknowledge that there’s something fundamentally wrong with our society as a whole, that so many individuals all feel this way.
I am pretty annoyed it’s so common for people to tell women to “not let men get a rise out of you” when they purposefully try to annoy you or upset you it’s like Literally never in my life have I heard people tell men to just stop bothering women.
Also this basically just says ‘don’t express emotion when a man pisses you off’
John Mulaney, a man who is iconically known for loving his wife, after being told by Jerry Seinfeld that his wife only thinks shes good at something
Well done OP, you’ve managed to capture the moment John’s spirit left his body
Jerry’s lucky that John is too polite to throw hands
Okay but I just went and watched this for myself and it’s WORSE
He’s. So uncomfortable. It’s obvious. I cut out the part where John kind of muttered, “That is true, isn’t it” about how all men think they’re funny, but his face is just screwed up in this ‘oh god what have i done what have i signed up for this is not good and this will probably go into my next comedy special of awkwardness’
Just watched this omg bless john bc jerry just keeps trying to do some “take my wife” bullshit and john very politely goes no, no.
proud of John for restraining himself from murdering a man on camera
What’s so horrifying about this to me is that this is literally Jerry Seinfeld trying to teach John Mulaney how to gaslight his wife.
Look at that dialogue. “She thinks she knows.” He’s trying to get Mulaney to see his wife’s expertise as instead a weird misperception. He’s coaching him to undercut his wife’s confidence in the truth and her own abilities.
And Mulaney replies exactly the right way: “She does know.” He asserts not only that she’s perceiving the world accurately, but that she is an expert at something he’s not good at.
Dudes, don’t take this shit from other dudes. Mulaney isn’t by any means perfect but he aced this. Stand for the truth. Defend women’s objectivity. Promote women’s expertise.
Doesnt his wife also work with antiques too?like. Isnt that part of her actual job?
I reblog this every time because I don’t think people understand that Anna is literally an interior designer. She makes absolutely stunning Victorian Lampshades. Which she designs.. for the interior of a home… she’s literally an interior designer. She doesn’t think she’s good at it, she knows she’s good at it because it’s her fucking job
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