Just an early warning: there is likely to be an icon change on this blog in the relatively near future. I commissioned something and I have reason to suspect it’s on the horizon.
never make a suicide joke again. yes this includes “i wanna die” as a figure of speech. swear off of it. actually make an effort to change how you think about things.
find something to compliment someone for at least 4 times a day. notice the little things about the world that make you happy, and use that to make other people happy.
talk to people. initiate conversation as often as you possibly can. keep your mind busy and you wont have to worry anymore
picture the bad intrusive thoughts in youe head as an edgy 13 year old and tell them to go be emo somewhere else
if someone makes you feel bad most of the time, stop talking to them. making yourself hang out with people who drain you is self harm. stop it.
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That’s some pretty good advice. I don’t know what’s left of my humor after ‘guess I’ll just die’ jokes but it’s worth a shot.
Personally i went from “guess I’ll die” jokes to “IF I HAVE TO BE HERE FOR 5 MORE MINUTES I PROMISE YOU I WILL BUY JUST, AN ARRAY OF CLOTHES.” and other wild hyperbolic stuff. Just replace the death part with something ridiculous and off topic. Its very entertaining
This also works with calling myself things like stupid, worthless, trash, etc. Even if you do this jokingly to yourself, your brain still believes it, and keeps up the cycle. Seriously, I found that when I stopped saying these things about myself, even jokingly, it made a massive difference.
Here’s a tip I picked up from a friend that’s helped me a lot — replace self deprecating jokes with ironically self aggrandizing jokes
Like every time I trip and fall, instead of saying “l’m just a disaster human” I say “I’m the epitome of grace and beauty”
Or like, when I draw a picture I’m not 100% happy with, instead of saying “my art is trash” I say something like “you know I think it’s time we replaced the Mona Lisa”
When you do that you get to make a joke, but you’re ALSO getting practice building yourself up, y’know?
And eventually it becomes a reflex and you get so used to it that you can say nice stuff about yourself even when you AREN’T joking
while im not Deaf or HoH, ive been in ASL classes and learned a lot about Deaf culture. in writing ive seen, especially fanfiction, often the portrayal of a Deaf character seems a bit ingenuine because of the lack of research put into deafness. there are a few things that are usually written a bit badly :
there is a difference between a hearing aid and a cochlear implant . in just about every single fic ive read about a Deaf character, the term “hearing aid” is used, and while that isnt particularly Wrong, i wouldnt say its 100% right all the time. for people with PARTIAL deafness, a hearing aid can be a useful tool because it amplifies the surrounding noise, but those with complete deafness cant use hearing aids. instead, there is a surgical procedure where a device, the cochelar implant, is implanted into the skull and creates a type of “hearing” with artificial fibers imitating the hair follicles in our inner ear that detect sound (from my understanding. correct me if im wrong.) a little external decice clips over the ear to use the internal device. But, if the person had Any hearing to begin with, ie any hair cells that transmitted noise, then the process of implanting the cochlear would remove the natural hair and Without the cochlear on, they would not be able to hear as well as before the implant.
Not Every Deaf Person Wants To Hear. actually, a great number of the Deaf community feel that tools like hearing aids and cochlear implants are attempts to Fix them, when they do not feel as if they are broken ! there are defined and Real Languages that the Deaf can communicate with. cochlear implants are also. A Bit Fucky. they dont grow with a person, so of a child gets one then they can grow to have migraines, pains, etc. not to mention doctors manipulating hearing parents into allowing their child to go through a procedure that they dont fully understand, or going behind Deaf parents’ backs without consent and giving their Deaf baby a “chance” . its a fucking problem lol. the Deaf dont want to be fixed! they arent broken or helpless. they can do Everything a hearing person can do, except hear. now, not all deaf or HoH people Care. some, especially people who went Deaf instead of being born Deaf (latened Deaf i believe? post language at least) would rather regain an imitation of hearing. every person, however, is different!
Deaf people are very proud, and veeery straight forward. the way that signed language is, makes it so that metaphors and idioms are . noncomprehensible to a lot of Deaf. and also makes it so a lot of Deaf are sort of obtrusive lol. theres sarcasm, but often the Deaf are veeeeeery literal and Extremely blunt. also.. some Deaf people dont speak. theyre not Mute its just a preference thing because they cant differentiate tone or volume, and learning pronunciation is a bitch, especially if you Cant Hear It Anyway. the oral method of teaching, where they ban sign language and force speaking, is cruel and stifling. but again, some do learn to speak and its a preference thing.
alexander graham bell is an asshole.
historically the Deaf have been persecuted against. look up the Deaf President Now movement. look up Alexander Graham Bell and his views on sterilization and eugenics in order to prevent genetic deafness. a lot of people are Still ableist . the Deaf can drive, assholes, its fucking easy.
NEVER call a Deaf person dumb, deaf mute, hearing impaired, or disabled
some numbers:
10% of Deaf kids are born to Deaf parents.
a Deaf person can only get about 30% of any information through lip reading, usually even less.
LESS THAN 2% OF HEARING PARENTS LEARN ASL. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD LEARN TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR FUCKING CHILD. THE GOVERNMENT WILL PAY FOR THE CLASSES!!!
this is Barely scratching the surface and im. A High School Student. i learned this In Class. im not a professor so ofc i dont know Everything, and this is also highly Americanized. if you have more info about the Deaf, INCLUDING those from other countries and the culture around the Deaf there, please add to this post !! i just feel that more people should be educated abt this, because inaccurate representations of deafness just perpetuate stigma etc etc etc .
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