fthgurdy:

I think instead of saying ‘queer is a slur because it hurts me’ people need to start saying ‘queer is a word that hurts me’. It’s down to personal feelings, which are valid, but should not hold vocabulary hostage.

It’s the whole difference between expecting people to police their own identity and reject a well-established academic term in order to protect you, and requesting special consideration for your trauma.

Think triggers. Queer is not a slur, but it may be a trigger.