docholligay:

“That’s not any of your business.” 

If I could give you any advice, my sensual avocados, it would be to learn this phrase, and use it in abundance. You are never required to give anyone an answer to a question you find personal, offputting, or even merely annoying. You do not exist to be a well of information for others. 

There are a million ways to put this phrase, and it doesn’t need to be those exact words. One of my favorites is when people know they’ve overstepped their boundaries, and go “I know that’s kind of personal” a great way to respond is just flatly going, “Yeah, it is.” And leave it at that. You have no requirement to coddle other people’s feelings. 

“Why aren’t you going to find out the sex of the baby?”  “Because I don’t want to.” 

“How much did that cost?” “Somewhere between too much and just enough.” 

“When did your family come to the US?” “Awhile ago.” 

“Are you neurotypical?/Are you going to have surgery?/Have you been tested for X?” “Are you asking for my personal medical history?” 

By the same token, remember, no one owes you jack shit either. I’ve asked nosey-ass questions and rightfully had my nose rubbed in it, too. And that’ll happen, and you’ll live. Getting your ego bruised every so often is good for you. 

 But I see on this site so many people trying to EXPLAIN themselves to people who don’t really care, they’re just looking for a reason to ‘gotcha.’ And people in their personal lives giving way more fucking details than they really want to give out, because they don’t feel like they’re allowed to say, “That’s personal.” You don’t have to list out every personal thing about yourself to live your life.