fox-and-jester:

kelagon:

fag-gender:

most cis people i’ve talked with are like… unsettled by the existence of trans men.

I think it’s because in some way they think they can spot a trans woman on sight – after all, the only portrayals they know are either played by cis men or by overfeminine cis women ; they can’t even fathom not knowing that a trans woman is trans. This way, they can live knowing what’s in every stranger’s pants.

but they haven’t heard of trans men, for most of them. they see my stubble and my deep voice and the idea that i have a vagina is like… extremely wrong. because they can’t tell me apart from a cis man. bc it’s way easier for a trans man to cispass socially, they are scared.

they ask me if really, i live as a man in my daily life. if really, people call me “sir” in the streets. and you can see it upsets them. you can see that something is wrong. that they start realizing that some women they know may be trans, some men they know may be trans, and they have no way of knowing.

and like, the look on their faces when i tell them i’m trans is – the media didn’t prepare me for this. and it touches something very deep ingrained, and it must be real fucking upsetting.

This an extremely important thing to keep in mind for people who prefer to cispass for their own safety/comfort but still would love to exist in the general state of ‘fuck transphobia’ that visible trans folks display

because you still get to scare the shit out of transphobes

Trans people continue to be wonderful just by existing

This!

One of my neighbors is a trans woman. Another neighbor who is a cis woman was over for coffee once and told me the latest gossip, like ‘xxx recently told me she used to be a man, can you believe it? I mean she sort of has a deep voice but I never would have thought!’

And I was like ‘uh yeah, maybe just say someone is trans, as an adjective. You know how I know? I’m trans as well, surprise! And maybe don’t spread stuff like that around :)’ (I said it very gently, but that is the gist)

The look on her face was priceless! If I could be trans, how many other trans people didn’t she recognize?

We actually had an interesting conversation after that and she told me she is bi and stuff, but yeah.

The ‘you know what I’m trans too and you never know, so better be respectful at all times’ move brings me great joy when I have the spoons to do it.