lierdumoa:

thestateofardadreaming:

twolverine:

noseforahtwo:

I’ve never seen it put so succinctly.

This.

[image description: screenshot of a tweet by Twitter user @liberienne that reads, “Shitty people are hoping you’ll be ‘the bigger person’ so there’s no consequences for their actions.”]

Who cares about them ? Be the bigger person for yourself because at the end of the day, what matters is how YOU react, conduct yourself. Who cares about what they want or need.

I care about their future victims. I want to react in a way that protects future victims. Shitty people will continue hurting the people around them until someone stops spouting useless platitudes like “be the bigger person” or “learn to let go” or “it gets better” and actually does something to end the cycle of shit.

When we forgive someone for something they’re still doing to other people, that’s still hurting other people, we’re enabling them. When people don’t face consequences for being shitty, we’ve incentivized shittyness, and the amount of shit we have to deal with in society rises.

We as a culture need to stop equating enablement with forgiveness.