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One thing I always bring up that straight writers obviously don’t understand but every gay person ever can attest to is that queer people stick together. Like, every queer person knows like 15 other ones and those 15 know even more. 

Like, having only One in your story completely misses the point of how we organize and stay safe, in addition to completely missing the point on being progressive (ie, having A Single Gay in your story isn’t special anymore and hasn’t been for decades now)

It is a fundamental misunderstanding of how marginalized people act bc straight people are allowed to be solitary and they don’t understand any other way of Being

Hijacking this post to talk about something interesting! There’s a lot of criticism in fanfiction circles of yaoi or yuri fanfiction where ‘everybody is gay’, and it’s almost always by folks who haven’t been involved in queer communities. If you’re queer, you really do surround yourself with queer people – so ‘everybody is gay’ in a character’s social circle actually makes perfect sense! 

this exhibits itself in other ways too, for example, when there’s one queer sibling there’s usually more – often because one sibling will bring the definitions home and the other will use that to explore their own identity! 

Another weird phenomenon I noticed is this happens a lot even before people realize they’re Not Straight ™. Out of my close friends in high school, most of us turned out some form of LGBTQA, and I’ve heard other people say the same is true for them.
So people saying it’s “unrealistic” that everyone in the same social circle would gradually discover they’re Not Straight ™- yeah, it is totally reasonable and even likely.

#we know our own #sometimes before we know ourselves (tags via @anneapocalypse )

I had this conversation the other day when a very conservative high school friend of @dadhoc was very earnestly confused about representation in media. He’s one of the few Evangelicals I can still talk to, this guy, and even then I have to take it in small doses.

But.

He was talking about how on some shows (The 100 and Orphan Black were his two examples) there are a LOT of queer people. Way more than “in the percentage of population.”

& I’m like “Yes, bc where you find us, you find us in clumps. We stick together.”

“You do?”

“Yes. Straight people are kind of terrifying. We may fight amongst ourselves but most of the time I’m still safer with a queer I disagree with, on average.”

I mean honestly.