I think we really need to reaffirm now that no amount of homophobia can be acceptable in our culture. There is no such this as harmless or victimless homophobia. All homophobia contributes to violence against us. You can not “disagree” with lgbt people’s “lifestyles” without supporting the rhetoric and legislation that puts us in very real danger.
Homophobia isn’t that black and white though. You can hate the sin and still love the sinner.
I don’t think you can. I think to classify our existence as “a sin” is in itself an act of hate and an act of violence. People can not see me and think that who I am as a person is “sinful” and, at the same time, genuinely love me.
Every act, opinion, statement, or omission of action that positions queers as “not to be encouraged”, “broken”, “for god to judge” is positioning us as less good, less worthy, less deserving of respect, rights, and protection from harm than people who adhere to heteronormativity.
“Hate the sin love the sinner” is just part of the homophobic fabric of our society.