joshnewberry:

Anyway if someone comes to you and tells you that they’re being abused, don’t  “talk to their abuser” without their consent. Like… that seems obvious but I’ve seen it happen and had it happen to me personally and it’s terrifying and it puts the victim’s life and safety and health in danger.

Chances are if an abuser finds out that their victim is talking about them behind their back, especially if they’re outing their abusive behavior, the victim will face consequences. They’ll be punished because their abuser will be pissed off that their name is being tarnished and they don’t have *as much control* over their victim as they thought. Unless you’re 100% fully capable of providing a guaranteed safe place for the victim to escape/hide from their abuser, you better not be confronting the abuser without the victim’s explicit permission because all you’re doing is putting them in more danger.