Some rapists seriously do not even know that they are rapists. They will brag and talk about their sex stories and not realize that what they are describing is actually rape. Rapists think “going out and to find and have sex with wasted girls” is consensual, that putting your hands in someone’s pants while they are sleeping is consensual, that pressuring someone when they are being hesitant and afraid is consensual, that even if someone is disassociating and uncomfortable, that if they do not audibly say “no.” that it’s consensual. So… Yeah, consent education is actually really important and should be part of sex education curriculum.
No. This post is a misrepresentation of the issue at hand. The problem is not that rapists think their behavior is consensual. The problem is that they think their nonconsensual behavior is morally trivial.
Maybe it sounds like I’m nitpicking, but I’m not.
This distinction is important.
If you want to engender a culture of consent, you have to do more than teach people that these behaviors are non-consensual. You have to teach people that non-consensual behavior DOES SERIOUS HARM TO FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS.
Because that’s the part these rapists don’t get.
They think putting their hands down a sleeping person’s pants is like stepping on the grass when a sign says “don’t step on the grass” or smoking 10 feet away from a building entrance that says “no smoking within 20 feet of this entrance” or throwing food away in a recycling bin that says “cans and bottles only.”
They know that a rule exists. They know that they’re are breaking it.
They just don’t see what the big deal is.
They don’t think they’re doing any ““““real”””” harm.
They don’t empathize with their victims. They don’t understand that these behaviors *seriously hurt people.* They think that accusing someone of rape is more cruel and more hurtful than actually raping someone. They think victims who “whine” about rape are “just being drama queens.”
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