okay tbh the most exhausting thing about being a feminist is when one of your dude friends goes “are you a feminist?” for w/e reason and you’re like “yeh” & they take that as an invitation to debate you on every tired argument they’ve ever heard on 4chan
like please stop making my existence a debate, i’m just trying to eat this take-out and watch re-runs of project runway
If someone asks you that question, you just know they want your opinion on something.
My ex-girlfriend asked me a while ago if I was a feminist. (Back when that astronomer wore that fantasy girls shirt on some televised event. She didn’t understand how that was problematic.) I have a really hard time believing she didn’t already know. We’ve been friends since our break up, like 10 years ago. It was almost certainly a segue question.
I mean, I wasn’t annoyed or offended when she did it because we’re close enough that I’m happy to explain things to her when she asks for it, but there was a little exhaustion at it.
Thoughtfulfangirling 